How to Tell Your Partner You Want a Threesome

How to Tell Your Partner You Want a Threesome

What I love the most about sex is the freedom to do whatever you feel like. Since it’s not a taboo topic, but a healthy human thing to do, there are no sexual barriers anymore but more experiments and more pleasure. 

People love to fantasize about sex. I bet each of us has some dirty dreams we would love to fulfil. From playing with toys, through spicy role plays, hardcore BDSM, or a  selection of anime love dolls, ending on exchanging partners for the night. Don’t be afraid of such thoughts; on the contrary, you should talk about them with your partner. 

Daydreaming about a threesome is a really common sex fantasy. Many people regularly invite an extra person (or more) to the bedroom. It can bring great pleasure as long as it doesn’t throw shade on your relationship.

If you’re afraid of the second half’s reaction for such a request, here is what to do. Below we pointed out a few tips on how to tell your partner you want a threesome.

Communication is the key

“Baby, how about spicing up our relationship a little?” Nope, we don’t like that! We don’t want to hear anything that can make us think our relationship is not hot enough. Even though long-term relationships are different from a fling and may even burn out a little, you should know you can hurt your loved one by saying stuff like that. 

A very first crucial aspect of telling your partner you want a threesome is to choose the right words and communicate your point of view gently. Broach the topic in the way you would typically bring other quite sensitive matters. Show your partner your curiosity, support, the importance of intimacy, openness. Don’t throw a bomb, wait for the reaction, and smoothly run the conversation. 

Make sure you want this

Alert! Real-life sex doesn’t look like porn movies. If threesomes you’re watching on PornHub turn you on so bad, try it. But you have to be aware that it looks different than directed videos with so-called professionals.

Before arranging all of it (which in some cases may be a tough nut to crack), think twice and make sure that’s what you want.

Your partner is the most important

An important thing during a threesome is making your second half comfortable during all this time. Who knows, maybe it was a big challenge for them to try it out and sharing the person they love scares them a lot. Prove them wrong. 

An extra person in your bed does not have any impact on your relationship; there are no feelings attached. It’s just a physical thing to make the three of you enjoy sex more. What you have as a relationship is love and commitment.

Show your partner they are the most important, and you really want them to enjoy this experience fully. Prove to them you don’t want anything they are not excited about and boost their confidence. The point is to enjoy it to the maximum together, not individually.   

Think of all the possible outcomes 

As much as you can experience great sex, you should also think of the possible issues. During and after the threesome, your partner may have wrong insights thinking that you’re more attracted to the third person in bed.

“Sharing” someone you love can be too much to bear. That’s why a deep conversation after sex is essential because it can quickly dispel the doubts possible and reasons to fight. An excellent way to compromise is to ask your partner to choose the third person to have sex with.

Don’t put pressure on your partner

Threesome is very specific. Once your partner agreed for that, it doesn’t mean it will become a regular thing. Putting pressure on the second half can have a terrible impact on your relationship.

Call me old-fashioned, but I would never recommend you doing a threesome regularly if you are in a relationship. If you’re single, it’s only your business. But a relationship needs trust, commitment, loyalty. It’s an exclusive thing. Having sex with an extra person may disrupt your idyllic relation and take intimacy away.  

The bottom line

Threesome, like every other sexual fantasy, can have good or bad aspects. An essential thing about this modification is the presence of a third party. If you’re in a loving relationship, and your partner doesn’t want to give it a shot, respect that. You can find plenty of alternatives to make it up. 

On the other hand, don’t take it so seriously. You may try it and love it. If not, it’s not going to happen again. Remember, sex should bring you joy and satisfaction. Don’t do things that totally don’t fit you, but also don’t be afraid to get out of your comfort zone a little. A proper attitude it the key, so relax and let your imagination run wild. 

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